But I'm going to be a married woman in one week from today, and there are a few things I need to share before that happens.
I need to share what you probably already know: how much of a burden is put on women in terms of weddings and marriage. Justin, my fiancé, has truly tried to help with the planning, and has even succeeded to a certain degree. With my dad, also a chef, he has planned the menu, worked out the catering stuff, ordered the animals, and learned how to roast them; he's also handled ordering the pies from our favorite Milwaukee bakery, and set up the whole rehearsal dinner. This is a lot. Especially considering how much our society in general has made it clear that he shouldn't have really done anything except get an outfit together and pick out some choice whisky for the guys in the wedding party.
But more than dealing with these to-be-expected expectations from society (SOCIETY!), I've learned that just being aware of them has not been enough to get around them. I'm talking about myself now.
